Pick a pattern you keep falling into, and find out what your mind may be trying to protect you from.
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When I Run From How I Feel
When I'm My Own Worst Critic
When Closeness Feels Unsafe
When My Mind Plays Tricks on Me
When I Can't Trust the Good
Don't see yours?
Describe the thing you keep doing.
Self-Sabotage Field Guide
Pick a pattern you keep falling into, and find out what your mind may be trying to protect you from.
Avoidance is rarely about laziness. Almost always, it is your mind steering you away from a feeling it has quietly decided you cannot afford to have right now.
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Why do I put off calling my grandmother even though I know I should?
It isn't the phone call that's hard — it's the heavy feelings waiting for you on the line.
A few possibilities — see which one lands
Your brain has quietly tallied how long it has been, and picking up the phone means picking up the guilt too. Avoiding the call lets you avoid the verdict — that you haven't been the grandchild you meant to be. The longer you wait, the higher the bill feels, so you keep not paying it.
Decode one of your own
Got a habit that isn't on the list? Describe the thing you keep doing.