Everybody brings her food. Nobody asks her for anything, and after a while that’s its own kind of lonely.
Ask her for something only she has. Then use it, and tell her you did.
Ask Her to Teach You Her Pie Crust
Bring your kids to her kitchen and ask her to teach them the thing she's good at — the crust, the garden, his brisket method. Being needed is the first thing widowhood takes.
What you'll need
- Your kids, and two hours with nothing after it
- Whatever she says to bring, bought exactly as she said
- A notebook, so she can see you writing it down
What to say
My kids have never had a real pie crust. Would you teach them yours? We'd come to you.
Pitfalls
- Ask her to teach, not to host. Show up with the flour already bought.
- Let her run it. Don't tidy her kitchen or take over the hard part.
- Make the pie again at your house and send her a photo. That's the part that lands.
Gray hair is a crown of glory. It is gained in a righteous life. — Proverbs 16:31