Happiness Audit

Seven happiness habits, and the seven traps that undo them. Score yourself on each pair and you'll get a scorecard, a plan for the next week, and a short daily checklist.

The look-back

How did your last seven days actually go?

For each pair, slide toward the side that sounds more like your week. There’s no passing grade — this is just an honest read, for you. Skip any that didn’t come up.

The Starting Point

Before the three needs — the quiet choice to value happiness at all.

The sin Devaluing Happiness Traded happiness away — to be right, to look serious, to chase money — almost without noticing you did it.

The habit Prioritizing Happiness Made small, conscious choices toward what actually makes you happy, without anxiously checking whether you feel happy yet.

Mastery

The need to feel good at something.

The sin Chasing Superiority Kept score — richer, smarter, further ahead — and measured yourself against the people around you.

The habit Pursuing Flow Got absorbed in something challenging and meaningful, lost track of time, or felt real gratitude toward someone who helped you.

Belonging

The need for real connection with at least one other person.

The sin Desperation for Love Waited to be loved — clingy and needy, or cool and avoidant — instead of being the one who gives first.

The habit Choosing to Love & Give Gave first and generously, but in the sustainable "otherish" way — not the self-erasing kind — and got to see the impact.

The sin Distrusting Others Defaulted to cynicism — bracing for people to disappoint — so you could never quite relax around them.

The habit Exercising Smart Trust Chose to trust first, having decided in advance to seek understanding (not revenge) if someone let you down.

Autonomy

The need to be the author of your own decisions.

The sin The Need for Control Tried to control other people’s choices, or gripped tighter on outcomes — and felt anger when things didn’t comply.

The habit Gaining Internal Control Took charge of your own state — relabeling, reframing, choosing better situations — and looked after sleep, movement, and food.

The sin Attachment to Outcomes Pinned your happiness to a result — desperate before it arrived, or flattened when it didn’t land.

The habit Dispassionate Pursuit of Passion Held genuine preferences but held outcomes lightly — taking happiness from the process, trusting hard turns become meaningful later.

The Practice Underneath

The awareness that makes all the rest possible.

The sin Mind Addiction Over-thought everything and overrode your gut — or stayed so lost in mental chatter you couldn’t see yourself clearly.

The habit Practicing Mindfulness Stepped back and watched your experience — a fly on the wall of your own mind — instead of being swallowed by it.

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